The Joy of “Beefing it”

Written By Cory Wyatt

Throughout high school and my early college days, I was kind of a loner. I didn’t really

talk to people on campus or try new things, and I was very stuck in my own ways. I only listened

to heavy metal, stuck with video games and television shows that were catered directly to me,

and only associated with people who had incredibly similar likes and dislikes to my own.

Eventually, as I progressed through community college and toward a real university, I began

trying new things and learning more about my past, present, and future self. Through

experimentation, and the experimentation of my group of friends, I learned that there are few

things in this world greater than “beefing it.”  I will attempt to define “beefing it,”

how it can be beneficial to your livelihood, and what you can do to become a better “beefer.”

“Beefing it” is a term coined by my friends and I to describe the manner in which we act

and the way that we live our lives.

We first discovered how to truly beef it in the summer of 2014, when we all took the summer off of work and school to focus on the things that really

mattered. In the previous semester we all took an ethics class at Moorpark College, which sent us

into a heavy self-loathing phase where we weren’t sure what to believe anymore. Much of our

world had been turned upside down, and the things that we thought were important suddenly

seemed irrelevant. Something really clicked when we realized that we had no responsibilities and

that we could really do anything that we wanted during the summer, which led to our similar

change in mindset. We essentially came to the conclusion that everything is meaningless, that

every societal norm is asinine, and that every moment on this earth is some kind of suffering. If

all of that is true, then why not just do the things that make you feel good and attempt to enjoy

these fleeting moments of consciousness while stuck in this hell hole together. This combination

of nihilism and hedonism has led us to some of the greatest moments in our lives to this date.

Simply put, beefing it is the pursuit of happiness. So many things get in the way of

attempting to enjoy life, finding things that you like to do, and taking the time to do them.

Whether it is your daily responsibilities, crappy mindless distractions, or self-consciousness

about your preferred hobbies, you can’t always do the things that you want to do, which is really

unfortunate because these are the things that will make you happy. Why would you prioritize

something that makes you unhappy over something that provides you happiness? Also, why

would you care what anyone thinks about things that you enjoy if you are the one that is enjoying

them? These two questions really stuck with me in the height of my beefing it with friends.

I’ve noticed a self-destructive trend in my life that I’ve been working to rectify. I would

open up a tab of Facebook on my internet browser and start scrolling down. Every single thing I

read made me mad. I was mad at everyone that posted anything because of how dumb it was, and

I was mad at myself for spending the time reading it instead of doing something either

productive or fun. Prioritizing things that anger you makes no sense. Once I realized that the

things I was doing weren’t doing any good for me, I started to cut those things out of my life.

This was a stepping stone towards my change in lifestyle.

Another step in my change towards the beefing lifestyle was to not be so self-conscious

about things that I liked and things that I disliked. Many people have guilty pleasure things that

they indulge in despite public opinion on these things, whether it’s a catchy pop song, or a

crappy television show that you think is so bad is good. Everyone has something universally

panned that they like whether it’s ironic or not, so why should you have to feel guilty about

liking things that might not be critically well-received? Why should you subject yourself to

feeling bad about liking things just because others don’t like them? I learned this lesson when the

CD player in my car broke and I had to start listening to the radio. When I started listening to the

radio, I was only listening to dad-rock style stations that just played Guns N’ Roses five times an

hour and kept a rotation of the same ten bands over and over again. These were all bands that I

was familiar with and enjoyed. Probably not my favorite bands, but still bands that I liked. It was

during this bombardment of wailing guitars that I realized that these are just the radio hits of the

80’s and 90’s. They shouldn’t be looked up to just as the radio hits of today shouldn’t be looked

down on, as I was prone to doing in the past. These sweeping generalizations led me to be locked

into one corner of the room as far as the media I was consuming, when I really should have been

looking at all of the music on the radio as derivative and lacking substance.

That being said, why does everything that we consume have to be vibrant and original

and inspiring? What is wrong with listening to something that might be junk, but that makes you

feel good? You should be able to enjoy anything that you want to enjoy, regardless of the

quality. There is potential to pay extra attention and listen to music with heavily layered sounds

and textures, or to watch movies or television programs with nonlinear plots and deep meanings.

These things could give you pleasure in different ways, but why bother with all that if you can

get 80% of the satisfaction for 10% of the effort. This is when I discovered my love for trashy

top-40 radio hits and crappy television, and learned that once I realized that nothing was perfect

that I could enjoy anything.

My basic point of telling these two stories about my life and how I came to these

realizations is to get people to step back and look at their own lives. I constantly see people get

worked up into a big fit over things that really don’t mean much in the grand scheme of things.

Many of these people get worked up over the dumbest things I’ve ever seen, like sitting during

the national anthem or the idea that people they don’t like are famous. My thoughts when I see

these people get upset about nothing often sound something like “Do these people even realize

how ridiculous they sound?” How someone could become so upset over such trivial matters is a

mystery to me, and I think if they took the time to look at these things objectively then they

would lead a much happier life.

So other than that, how can beefing it help you live a happier life? First of all, as I stated

earlier, doing things that you enjoy with make you happier. By putting a priority on the things

that you like to do, you are setting yourself up to be less angry at the world and to enjoy your life

as much as possible. In my case, I enjoy watching football with my friends, drinking cocktails,

making really self-depreciating jokes, and watching ridiculous anime like Chobits and Initial D.

In the times that I spend doing these things with the people I love, I’m the happiest I could

possibly be. That being said, life sometimes gets in the way of doing things that you want to do,

and the fact that you have to do things that may seem meaningless to you but are required is a

real buzzkill.

Secondly, working towards understanding that many of the problems that you’ll

encounter in the world don’t really matter really makes it easier to get through day to day life.

How many things a day do you worry about that, if ignored, would decrease your quality of life

considerably or kill you? If your worries don’t fit into either of those categories, I would

consider not worrying about them as much as you do. By fretting about things that aren’t

necessarily important, you’re just heaping extra stress onto life, which is stressful by definition.

This added stress will absolutely decrease your quality of life, so it is inherently worse for you

than whatever you may be worrying about.

With all of this in mind, the only question that remains is “how can I become a better

beefer?”  Beefers, of course, are people who subscribe to the beefing it lifestyle. The number one

thing that I can recommend for becoming a better beefer would be to be self-aware. It is

incredibly important to be able to look at yourself and the world around you and discern if you

are doing things that you would find unacceptable out of other people. If you can look at the

things that you’re doing and see if you agree with the way you act, then you’re on your way to

being a better person.

Another key to becoming a true beefer is to take it easy. Being too high strung and

obnoxious not only isn’t good for yourself, but it’s bad for the people around you as well. It is an

underrated quality to be able to relax into a situation, read the room, and be able to not only

contribute to the conversation in a constructive manner, but also to be able to keep quiet when

the situation calls for it or when you have nothing to say. This is guaranteed to not only make

you enjoy social situations more, but you’ll be more enjoyable to be around as well.

The final key I can give to prospective beefers would be to strive for happiness, but don’t

be disappointed when you can’t find it. While beefing it truly is centered around the pursuit of

happiness and doing the things that you find enjoyable regardless of what others think, a true

beefer understands that life has no inherent meaning and that attempting to find a deeper

meaning can drive a man insane. It’s best when you reach this conclusion to just accept it, and

the fact that we’re all stuck on this planet together with no purpose simply counting down the

days to our demise. This existential dread can make it hard to enjoy life even with the tips that

are given above. In reality, a beefer’s life is just making the best out of a bad situation, and that’s

all that anyone can ask for in this crazy world.